>When did I say it was a value judgment? It's just >annoying to be compared >to someone based on one fashion accesory... How others regard you and to whom they compare you is your gig, not mine. I was refering to what I wrote, my observations, not your life experiences. >and I >will stand by my belief >that women musicians get "looks" comparisons far >more than men do. If you >don't think this is true...well, you're just wrong. Never said I don't think this is true. If you extrapolated that, well...then you're just wrong. >In any case, I take umbrage to being called >"thin-skinned" for merely >stating my opinion. True, but like many today, you sound like you were looking to be insulted. Merely stating my opinion. >I'll opt to overlook your condescending tone here Appreciate that >and just say that it's >NOT trivial that these thing depress me as this is >what I do for my life. >Sure, there are murders and wars and no end of big >bad things in the big >bad world. Doesn't mean things in my subjective >world shouldn't have an >effect on me. It's what I know, its' what I live. Fair enough, PK >----- ------- Original Message ------- ----- >From: :audities@smoe.org >To: audities@smoe.org >Sent: Wed, 24 Jan 2007 -0800 (PST) 14:04:58 > > > >On Wed, January 24, 2007 12:52 pm, >rob@splitsville.com wrote: >>>First off- >>>To whomever said they didn't like Kay Hanley's >>>"geeky glasses" and >>>wondered whether she was trying to look like Lisa > >>>Loeb >> >> Yep, that was me. If she was a guy and wearing >granny specs I'd wonder if >> (s)he was looking like an unhip John Lennon. Real >dark glasses? I would >> have mentioned Roy Orbison. >> It's a fashion comparison, not a value judgement. >Nor was music compared >> at any time. No one was putting down female >musicians or women in general. > >When did I say it was a value judgment? It's just >annoying to be compared >to someone based on one fashion accesory...and I >will stand by my belief >that women musicians get "looks" comparisons far >more than men do. If you >don't think this is true...well, you're just wrong. > >> >> I have the feeling, however, that if I was making >value judgments about >> "hot babes" and other well known music tarts we >would have heard a peep >> out of you. >> Stop being so thin-skinned. >> > >I'm not sure I understand the above statement. Did >you mean to say you >"wouldn't have heard a peep out of me?" >In any case, I take umbrage to being called >"thin-skinned" for merely >stating my opinion. > >>>This just depresses me. >> Yikes- it's a big, bad world out there, and >you're in for a long haul. >> There are lots of really depressing things out >there. > >I'll opt to overlook your condescending tone here >and just say that it's >NOT trivial that these thing depress me as this is >what I do for my life. >Sure, there are murders and wars and no end of big >bad things in the big >bad world. Doesn't mean things in my subjective >world shouldn't have an >effect on me. It's what I know, its' what I live. > >PK > > > > >> >> >>>----- ------- Original Message ------- ----- >>>From: :audities@smoe.org >>>To: audities@smoe.org >>>Sent: Wed, 24 Jan 2007 -0800 (PST) 11:38:20 >>> >>>I take exception to this thread. >>> >>>First off- >>>To whomever said they didn't like Kay Hanley's >>>"geeky glasses" and >>>wondered whether she was trying to look like Lisa > >>>Loeb: >>> >>>Being a female musician who also happens to wear >>>glases, I can't tell you >>>how many times I've gotten the Loeb comparison >>>simply based on my >>>spectacles. Our music is nothing alike. I'm also >a >>>friend of Kay's. Both >>>she and I wear glasses because we need corrective > >>>lenses, not because we >>>want to look like another person who wears >glasses. >>> >>> >>>And to the person who says he only buys Lia >Loeb's >>>records to look at her, >>>not because he likes the music: >>> >>>This just depresses me. I take great pride in the > >>>music I make, and to >>>have either a) someone not buy my records because > >>>I'm not hot enough, or >>>b) have someone only buy my records solely >because >>>they think I'm hot, not >>>because they like what I do, would be >increcdibly >>>demeaning. >>> >>>This just proves that, still, women are not >always >>>taken seriously as >>>musicians. Looks are still such an important >>>factor, and it's really >>>unfortunate. I wonder how many people heard "A >Girl >>>Called Eddy"'s album >>>last year. Or Sam Philips'. These women don't >>>market their looks. THey >>>don't need to, they're both incredibly talented. >>>The catch 22- perhaps >>>because they chose not to market themselves as >"hot >>>babes" they're not as >>>commercially succesful as they should be. >>> >>>I'm not Lisa Loeb...perhaps she is fine with >>>this...but I just couldn't >>>keep my "mouth" shut about it. >>> >>>Sincerely, >>> >>>Paula A. Kelley >>