Sir Bash opined:

<<<I think that's the key-it's like when you go on a date with someone and it 
doesn't work out; you reel off a list of things that annoyed you about your 
date, and when you stop to think about it you realize that if you had actually 
*liked* the person, those things wouldn't have annoyed you very much, if at 
all.>>>

I hear ya, Dave.  I went out with this girl once who I didn't really care 
for, and I eventually realized it was because she sounded exactly like Elvis 
Costello and looked just like Eugene Edwards.

JB