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| From | Mike Bennett <mrhonorama@hotmail.com> |
| Subject | Re: See... |
| Date | Fri, 1 Feb 2008 18:56:15 -0600 |
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Bob --
One of the points that you make in the post below is correct -- the fact that someone does not like something that you like, and expresses this opinion, shouldn't change your own opinion. But when fellow music fans gather together in a forum for insanely great pop, the only way the forum can thrive is if people express their opinions. Sometimes that's done in the form of a list.
But the fact that someone takes the time to jot off 5 or 10 or 20 albums or artists that they dig, or just one, isn't necessarily a form of self-absorbed one-upsmanship. It's just a method of communication. I certainly feel that everyone's year end lists often serve to jog memories or identify releases that people may not have know about it.
Yes, from time to time, there are disagreements. More often than not, they are civil -- someone just pointing out why they don't like something, or something they think is similar or like better. Often, other people chime in to agree. I can't say that anyone who disagreed about something that I like has changed my mind. But I know that I've bought dozens upon dozens of CDs based on posts from others on this list. And if the disagreement gets heated, it's because somebody is passionate about the topic. I'll admit that sometimes I've flown off the handle when someone knocks what I like, and I've argued as vehemently as when talking about political subjects. Maybe music isn't as important as the Iraq war, for example, but both can arouse my ire.
Moreover, what's wrong with a little ego gratification? The average Auditeer is a much bigger music fan than most folks. I'm sure a lot of Auditeers don't have a whole lot of friends in their immediate circle to discuss these topics and praise this music. Maybe this is some sort of pathetic need for validation. But I think it's something much better than that. It's built on sharing knowledge about a subject that we are all passionate about.
What's most depressing about your post is that it implicitly says that the entire purpose of this list is pointless. If folks didn't post about what music they liked, and sometimes agreed and sometimes disagreed, I think about all we could post here would be You Tube links, tour dates and release dates.
Finally, tying this to your prior post, what many take issue with is not that you have a differing opinion. It's how you express your opinion. It's one thing to disagree with someone (or apparently a large percentage of people on the list). But when you express that disapproval in a condescending tone that shouts, "hey you guys, you're all shitheads," it's neither fun nor provocative. And then to act like you are so wise and those who complain about your incessantly negative and unkind posts are the stupid ones doesn't really help one bit.
Mike Bennett
Blog: http://blog.myspace.com/mrhonorama
Record reviews and more at http://fufkin.com
Find out about Chicago shows: http://launch.groups.yahoo.com/group/chicagopopshowreport/
> Date: Fri, 1 Feb 2008 19:14:18 -0500
> From: segarini@rogers.com
> Subject: Re: See...
> To: mrudnick@marturo.com; audities@smoe.org
>
> Actually, listing what you own, be it baseball cards, cookbooks, or CD's, would pass as 'psychotic' behaviour.
> Honestly, what purpose does is serve other than self-absorbed one-ups-man-ship?
> ...and anyone that is offended by another individual disliking what they like? What difference could that possibly make to what YOU like?
> Riddle me this:
> I LOVE King Of The Hill
> Fourplay
> James Taylor
> The Eagles
> Vinyl Kings
> The Bicycles
> Marianas Trench
> Dozens of movies/tv shows/comics/restaurants/bands/etc, that maybe NO ONE ELSE likes...and yet, it matters not to me, because I LOVE it, and feel that all others have a right to love what THEY love.
> Why would anyone get their nose out of joint if they KNOW what they like, just because someone else doesn't share their taste?
> Beats the hell out of me...
> And now...first person to call me out for posting a list, (see above), gets an imaginary prize of his or her choice.
> ...see...I TOLD you this is fun.
> Carry on...
>
> bob
>
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> Marty Rudnick <mrudnick@marturo.com> wrote:
> Actually, wouldn't 'psychopathic' be the correct term?
>
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: "Gene Good"
> To:
> Sent: Friday, February 01, 2008 12:59 PM
> Subject: Re: See...
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> if you're psychotic
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> > Date: Thu, 31 Jan 2008 18:36:45 -0500
> > From: segarini@rogers.com
> > Subject: See...
> > To: audities@smoe.org
> >
> > ...wasn't that fun?
> >
> > bob
>
>
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